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Someone I know has blood cancer

If you're supporting someone with blood cancer, we're here to help you look after yourself too.

What you need to know

  • Being close to someone with blood cancer can have a big impact on you – You might feel frightened, stressed or worried, even after their treatment has finished or when they are in remission.
  • But you’re not alone – There are ways you can get support on a practical and emotional level. Remember, our Support Services Team is here for you too.
  • It’s important you take care of yourself – There are lots of little things that can give you a boost and help you be there for your loved one.
Jude with her husband Nigel

Jude's story

Spending precious time with my husband

Jude's story

Ways to look after yourself

When someone is ill, it can feel tricky to put your needs first, or find the time to take a break. But it’s important to find little ways to take care of yourself as well – you don’t want your own health or well-being to suffer.

Here are some things that might help:

  • Find a support network for yourself – whether it’s on social media, a close friend or work colleague. You need someone to talk to as well.
  • Don’t forget you need me-time – to avoid burning out, could you go for a walk by yourself, meet a friend for a coffee or just soak in the bath for half an hour?
  • Can anyone else help? You don’t need to do everything on your own. Have a think about tasks you could delegate and make sure you’re getting all the help you’re entitled to from social services. And remember, your loved one’s healthcare team is there to support you too.
  • Counselling can be a good way to talk through your feelings without worrying about burdening anyone else. You might be able to access it at the hospital, through your GP or at a Macmillan Cancer Support Centre or Maggie’s Centre.
  • Learn ways to relax – whether it’s yoga, breathing exercises or mediation. There are lots of apps you download for free that help with stress or worry.

Mindfulness meditation can be a good way to reduce worry or stress, help you relax and get a better night’s sleep. It may also help improve well-being for people who are family carers.

Anyone can try mindfulness – you don’t need any special skills to give it a go.

Watch our mindfulness videos to learn some basic techniques, which you can continue to use and practice.

I talk to my mum about my friend Natalie. She just listens. There have been a few times when I’ve got overwhelmed and cried.

- Sam, supporting her friend Natalie through acute myeloid leukaemia (AML)

Practical help

Are you a carer?

If you’re looking after someone with blood cancer, you might be a carer, even if you don’t see yourself as one. You could be entitled to Carer’s Allowance, support from social services and you have rights at work. Find out more from Citizens Advice.

Problem solving

Providing care can feel overwhelming. Try writing down a list of everything on your mind – think about what you can control and what you can’t. Break down each problem you can control into smaller steps

Step one: Break the problem down into smaller steps and pick one thing to tackle first.

Example: We don’t have enough food in the house – I don’t have enough time to do the shopping.

Step two: Write down as many ideas as you can to solve the problem.

Example:

  1. Do an online shop each week.
  2. Ask my neighbour to help.
  3. Do lots of little shops through the week.

Step three: Pick one solution to try and plan a time to try it.

Example: Set a reminder on my phone to do an online shop on Sunday night.

Sylvia, whose husband, Tony, was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukaemia (ALL)

Sylvia's story

Looking after myself, as well as my husband

Sylvia's story

Communication

When you’re dealing with blood cancer, it’s important to keep communicating, but this can be easier said than done. If you want to open up a conversation with your loved one, you could try:

  1. Making some time and space for a chat.
  2. Asking what they need and how you can best support them.
  3. If talking feels too hard, how else can you show you’re there for them? Some people have written an email, letter, sent a text or made a playlist of songs.

When I’m at home I try and think about nice things and literally just sit and zone out for a while. I find it’s a good way to escape from stressing out.

- Dan, whose mum Kate is on watch and wait for non-Hodgkin lymphoma

Tools and support

If you are caring for someone with blood cancer, try Carer’s UK for expert information and advice about your entitlements and rights.

Some carer services offer counselling. Check with your local carer service to see what is available near you. 

Dawn, support line worker

Worried about anything or have questions?

Contact our Support Services Team

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